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Celtic Hand-Fasting Ceremony: Tying the Knot

Celtic Hand-Fasting Ceremony: Tying the Knot

My daughter, Alaina, and her groom, Tallis, had a Celtic hand-fasting at their commitment ceremony in the UK. This ritual may be novel to some. However, this is an old ritual dating to at least 1225 CE as practiced by the English clergy. She liked it because it underscores that it is the positive intentions in marriage that makes a relationship last. In this version of the ritual, they make six promises. Each time a promise was made, I tied a knot on the cloth that draped their clasped hands. So that the colors matched, we used the cut hem from Alaina's dress.? At the end of the ritual, they had a physical reminder of their promises to each other. Here is the text I used: In lieu of the more traditional vows, Tallis and Alaina have decided to exchange the vows associated with the Celtic Handfasting Ceremony.? This is an ancient ceremony that allows for the visual representation of the connection that exists between these two and the commitment they are making today.? What attracted Alaina and Tallis to this ceremony was the acknowledgement of both the positive and the negative aspects that are inherent in life and in relationships.? Alaina and Tallis, will you please turn and face each other and hold right hands, looking at each other. PROMISE 1 Alan: Tallis, will you cause her pain? Tallis: I may. Alan: Is this your intent? Tallis: No. Alan: Alaina, will you cause him pain? Alaina: I may. Alan: Is this your intent? Alaina: No. Alan: Will you share each other's pain and seek to ease it? Together: Yes. Alan: And so the binding is made (and tie a knot). PROMISE 2 Alan: Alaina, will you share in Tallis's laughter? Alaina: Yes. Alan: Tallis, will you share in Alaina's laughter? Tallis: Yes. Alan: Will both of you look for the brightness in life and the positive in each other? Together: Yes. Alan: And so the binding is made (and tie a knot). PROMISE 3 Alan: Alaina, will you burden him? Alaina: I may. Alan: And is this your intent? Alaina: No. Alan: Tallis, will you burden her? Tallis: I may. Alan: And is that your intent? Tallis: No. Alan: Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union? Together: Yes. Alan: And so the binding is made (and tie a knot). PROMISE 4 Alan: Tallis, will you share in Alaina's dreams? Tallis: I will. Alan: Alaina, will you share in Tallis's dreams? Alaina: I will. Alan: Will you dream and grow together to create new realities and possibilities? Together: Yes, we will. Alan: And so the binding is made (and tie a knot). PROMISE 5 Alan: Tallis, will you cause her anger? Tallis: I may. Alan: Is that your intent? Tallis: No. Alan: Alaina, will you cause him anger? Alaina: I may. Alan: Is that your intent? Alaina: No. Alan: Will you take the heat of anger and use it to temper the strength of this union? Together: Yes. Alan: And so the binding is made (and tie a knot). PROMISE 6 Alan: Tallis, will you honour Alaina? Tallis: I will. Alan: Alaina, will you honour Tallis? Alaina: I will. Alan: Will you seek to never cause to break this union? Together: Yes. Alan:?? And so the binding is made (and tie a knot).
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